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In super metropolises like Shanghai, Beijing, Shenzhen, Guangzhou, the New York Bay Area, and similar cities, there are large numbers of high-caliber single young people. They have countless reasons for being single, but one of the most significant is how difficult it is to encounter members of the opposite sex who match their own level of qualifications. You might come across one or two who fit the bill through your existing social circle, but unfortunately, they often aren’t a good match. Meeting a whole group of truly compatible, high-quality prospects is extremely rare. Finding a partner requires casting a wide net to increase your chances of success. If you could suddenly meet twenty or more high-caliber singles who align well with your standards, getting out of singlehood would likely happen quite naturally.

Back in January, a poster for a 30-million-yuan (3kw) high-end matchmaking event went viral in my WeChat Moments. Some friends who attended shared glowing feedback: the quality was top-notch, the entire experience was enjoyable, they not only met someone who sparked interest but also made connections with many interesting people and formed valuable friendships. The organizers host one event every month. The upcoming dates are: Shanghai on February 1, Beijing on February 8, Shenzhen on March 15, Hangzhou on March 1, Silicon Valley on February 1, and New York on February 23.

Before attending, I was genuinely curious. Romance usually sparks in everyday social interactions—whether it’s attraction at first sight or hoping for a “soft rice” lifestyle, there should be plenty of opportunities in daily life. Everyone who passes the entry screening for these events must have strong credentials. So why do they still struggle to find a partner and end up attending such a matchmaking gathering? Among them, some must have certain “deal-breakers”—flaws that become apparent only upon close interaction, making them unacceptable to others and leading to prolonged singlehood. Whether it’s a difficult personality, subpar appearance, or something else entirely depends on the individual.

After being seated, the staff handed me a form listing basic information about all the male attendees present. Their ages ranged from the 1980s to 1990s birth years, with annual incomes varying widely—generally starting from 1 million yuan and up, with no upper limit.

Although I noticed several male guests arriving in roaring luxury cars when I parked, during conversations everyone remained approachable and down-to-earth. There was none of the old-school, showy behavior—like casually slapping car keys on the table to flaunt wealth. Unless you asked directly, no one bragged about their possessions. The event included many low-key, understated individuals; there’s always someone more impressive out there.

When the women took turns introducing themselves, I was struck by how each one was more beautiful than the last. When the men stepped forward, I thought to myself that they all seemed like serious, accomplished players.

Most of the men I met at the event fell into two main categories when it came to what they were seeking:

One group wanted someone who could provide strong financial support during cash-flow shortages—essentially a naive, sweet girl from a very wealthy family but relatively inexperienced in the world. One boss, who probably has assets worth several hundred million, was very clear: he hoped to find a girl whose family could offer at least 20 million yuan. He strongly disliked relationships with overt material demands. From his observations, he concluded that people whose families have assets exceeding 20 million tend to interact with more ease and relaxation—less aggressive or pressured energy. Personally, though, I believe one’s outward demeanor has more to do with personal mindset and maturity than with family wealth.

The other group sought someone willing to happily play a supportive, behind-the-scenes role—like a high-end, all-around homemaker who receives pocket money and a secondary card each month. Some men mentioned during introductions that they prefer clingy personalities; what they really want is a domestic-oriented partner.

There are also men who maintain an “experience-first” attitude even at these events. For them, it’s simply about finding a comfortable, enjoyable companion for the present—without heavy expectations for long-term commitment or marriage. They prioritize the quality of the current experience over future guarantees.

When it comes to choosing a partner, some hesitate when they meet someone who truly moves them, worrying they might not be the other person’s ideal type. Objectively speaking, there’s no need for such concern: participants in these paid matchmaking events receive guidance from professional coaches. Subjectively, the more rigid and checklist-driven someone is about their future spouse, the less likely they are to fall head over heels for someone who ticks every box perfectly.

In the minds of such people, there are fixed standards—A, B, C, D. If met, they “love”; if not, they don’t. For example, that boss said he could never love someone whose family background was too modest. But standards are usually set for those you don’t love. When the person you truly fall for appears—even if they fail every single one of your criteria—you’ll still tumble helplessly into love. Think of Esmeralda in The Hunchback of Notre-Dame: she believed she could never love a hideous monster, yet she fell for the deformed bell-ringer. Conversely, for someone you don’t love, even if they satisfy A, B, C, and D perfectly, you can always find a fifth, sixth, or seventh reason to reject them.

(One quick aside: someone truly skilled and independent who pursues you only for your money won’t make you feel like an ATM. 🙉)

When asked about their ideal type, most people admitted they don’t have a rigid framework—it’s mostly about the feeling. That’s why matchmaking requires bold experimentation and plenty of exposure. A large enough sample size gives you clearer insight into your own preferences.

The event organizer happens to be one of my readers. He explained that their platform is called “Xiangyu Weiming” (相遇未名), a leading high-end matchmaking and social organization focused on top-tier, highly educated singles in Shanghai, Beijing, Shenzhen, and other key areas. Founded in September 2013 by a Peking University alumnus, the platform has facilitated over 6,000 couples to date, with more than 3,600 having married. They have already held 42 such 3kw (30-million-yuan threshold) events in Shanghai, Beijing, Shenzhen, and New York—making them the undisputed leader in this niche domestically.

This Shanghai event featured an upgraded venue: the Fenyang Garden Hotel, designed by the renowned Hungarian architect László Hudec (邬达克), who was active in Shanghai in the early 20th century. During the Republic of China era, it once served as the former Customs Inspectorate building. With its red-tiled yellow walls, spiral columns, wrought-iron fences, marble fountains… every detail exudes a rich European retro charm, making you feel as though you’ve stepped into Rome. The event runs from 6:00 PM to 10:00 PM on February 1, featuring a carefully curated Shanghai-style banquet to foster natural interactions among participants.

If you meet the criteria for this 30-million-yuan matchmaking event, it’s really worth signing up to give it a try.

The entry requirements for the 3kw event are:

For men (satisfy at least one via asset verification):
Personal + parental assets (including real estate) of 30 million yuan+Personal annual income of 2 million yuan+Or both: personal + parental assets of 20 million yuan+ and personal annual income of 1 million yuan+

For women (satisfy at least 3 out of 4):
High attractivenessBorn in 1995 or laterGraduate from 985/211 universities, QS Top 200, or equivalent top art institutionsPersonal + parental assets (including real estate) of 10 million yuan+

They’ve also pioneered a reverse 3kw format—asset verification for women and interviews for men—for capable, successful women and attractive, emotionally valuable younger men. In this “marry-in” or “older woman–younger man” version, men can even qualify for free entry. The next Shanghai reverse 3kw event is March 8 from 6:00 PM to 10:00 PM; Beijing on April 19 from 6:00 PM to 10:00 PM; and Shenzhen on March 29 from 6:00 PM to 10:00 PM.

In traditional views, “marrying in” is often misunderstood as men depending on women. But in the modern reverse version, it emphasizes equality, complementarity, and mutual growth. Men are no longer mere dependents but strong supporters and co-creators in a powerful woman’s career and family life.

To address concerns from some female users (“Does the higher asset requirement for men in regular 3kw events objectify women?”) and from some post-90s, post-95, or even post-00s male users (“Is it shameful in today’s era to trade looks and emotional value for happiness? Why can’t I pursue an attractive, wealthy older sister?”), they boldly flipped the screening standards—setting higher asset or income requirements for women while lowering material demands on men and focusing instead on age, height, appearance, physique, and emotional value.

Reverse 3kw requirements: Women (satisfy at least one):
Personal + family assets (including real estate) of 30 million yuan+Annual income of 1 million yuan+Universally recognized exceptional attractivenessAchieved notable social status or career accomplishments

Men (satisfy at least 3 out of 7 via interview):
Born 1995 or laterHeight 178 cm+High attractivenessExcellent physique with long-term exercise habits or visible fitness results (e.g., defined chest or abs)Ability to consistently provide ample emotional valuePersonal + family assets of 10 million yuan+Graduate from 985/211, QS Top 200, or equivalent top sports/art institutions
Unlike regular events, this one verifies women and interviews men. A fan of mine who attended the inaugural Beijing reverse event said the atmosphere was great—far from what she imagined. More than half the men were handsome younger guys from Beijing’s middle-class and above families; it felt like a reunion of top high schools like Renmin University Affiliated or No. 8 Experimental. The women were both beautiful and confident, and many made good friends.

Registration and inquiries are via scanning the organizer’s QR code (as mentioned in the original context).

If 3kw still doesn’t meet your standards, they also host even higher-tier A9 events: May 24 in Shanghai, July 18 in Shenzhen, and March 22 in Beijing (Sunday evenings). For men: asset verification of 100 million yuan (personal + family) or annual income 5 million+. For women: satisfy A or B, where A is 100 million yuan assets, and B is born 1997 or later, high attractiveness, 985/211/QS200 or equivalent art school, plus 30 million+ assets (at least 3 of 4). Registration via the same QR code.

For those in the US, Canada, Australia, or New Zealand, don’t worry—they now have closed-door high-end 3kw WeChat groups for these regions. Scan to apply for an interview; upon passing, you join the group (same thresholds as Shanghai offline events). Once the group reaches 100 members, they’ll start hosting 3kw closed-door events, with group members getting priority access.

Or, if you’re just short of the 3kw threshold or unavailable on February 1, consider their April 6 event from 5:30 PM to 10:00 PM—a premium 100-person gathering for those with 10 million+ assets. Men: personal + family assets 10 million+ or post-tax annual income 600,000+. Women: satisfy at least 3 of 4—born 1993 or later (exceptional cases relaxed to 1988+), high attractiveness, 985/211/QS500 or equivalent art school, personal + family assets 5 million+. Men verify assets; women interview. Fans who attended previous ones said the quality and quantity of participants were excellent—whether you connect depends on your luck that day.

Finally, I wish everyone—whatever form of relationship they choose—true happiness and joy with their partner.

Alcune persone hanno un nucleo piuttosto debole, una soggettività scarsa, e sono facilmente guidate dagli altri. È fondamentale imparare a comunicare con la "tecnica del disco rotto", afferrando l'essenza e sottolineando continuamente il nucleo di ciò che vuoi esprimere.
La tecnica del disco rotto consiste nel considerarsi come un disco rotto: indipendentemente da ciò che dice l'altra persona, puoi mantenere e rafforzare il tuo punto di vista.


Manuel J. Smith nel libro (Assertiveness) dice: "Io sono un disco rotto". Questa tecnica insegna a perseverare ripetendo in modo calmo le proprie idee, dicendo ciò che hai in mente più e più volte, senza bisogno di prepararti in anticipo su come discutere o controllare la rabbia, permettendoti di affrontare gli altri in modo "piacevole".

Spesso si dice che la storia degli Stati Uniti sia breve, dall'indipendenza delle tredici colonie nordamericane nel 1776 fino ad oggi, sono passati solo poco più di duecento anni. In realtà, anche la forma statale della Russia non è molto lunga, il Principato di Mosca, di natura municipale, è stato fondato nel 1283, quindi ha più di settecento anni; nel 1480 ha liberato il suo dominio dal controllo dei Mongoli, che risale a più di cinquecento anni fa.

Esaminiamo la storia dell'evoluzione dei nomi della Russia: Principato di Mosca, Impero Russo, Repubblica Sovietica di Russia, Unione Sovietica, Russia.
[Principato di Mosca]
Nel 1283 (ventesimo anno dell'era Yuan del Khan Yuan), il Principato di Vladimir, suddiviso dal Rus' di Kiev, ha anche suddiviso il Principato di Mosca. All'epoca, Mosca era solo un piccolo paese di confine del Principato di Novgorod, esistente come città stato sotto il dominio di un sovrano. È simile a come la dinastia Zhou occidentale ha conferito il regno di Lu al clan Ji, e all'interno del regno di Lu sono stati suddivisi diversi nobili, tra cui i tre Han che quasi hanno distrutto il regno di Lu. Ci sono molti principati nel Rus' di Kiev, e ci sono molte piccole nazioni suddivise dal Principato di Vladimir.